The Impact of Technology on Marriage and Family

Recently, my teenage daughter and I went out to an ice cream corner to spend some time together. My genuine agenda for the meeting was simply to be with her—no questions, no advice, just enjoying each other's company over some delicacies. Unfortunately, I forgot to switch off my phone, and it rang. Since our time together was a high priority for me, I clicked on the automatic reply: 'I'm in a meeting.' My daughter noticed this and remarked, 'Now I understand—this might be how you often respond to my calls with the same message.' She couldn’t quite think of our time together as a serious meeting—probably because I don’t usually treat my time with her that way. I told her that, at that moment, meeting with her was far more serious and important than attending that call. I was genuine in sending the response that I was in a meeting, but her words made me think.

The Digital Age: A World of Distractions

Today, we live in a world of severe distractions. Many of us seem to have reached a point where we do not know how to handle them, and they often overtake our most important priorities, causing strained relationships and unnecessary stress. Instead of recognising our own poorly managed priorities, we tend to blame each other for the distress these distractions bring.

This imbalance is evident within families as well. We think we are always right, that our priorities are set correctly, even when they are skewed and causing damage to our relationships.

The Biblical Perspective on Priorities

The Bible teaches us to value relationships above material or worldly distractions. “Let all things be done decently and in order” (1 Corinthians 14:40). If our use of technology disrupts the order in our lives, affecting our relationships with God and family, then we must reconsider our choices.

Paul reminds us in Ephesians 5:15-16, “Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.” Are we wisely using the time given to us, or are we allowing technology to steal moments that should be spent nurturing our marriage and family life?

Guarding Our Relationships in a Digital World

Technology itself is not the problem—our priorities and self-discipline are. We need to set clear boundaries to safeguard our relationships. Consider these practical steps:

• Make your dining table a device-free zone.

• Practice undistracted and meaningful conversations with your spouse and children.

• Set aside a time for genuine, uninterrupted prayer and Bible study. “Be still, and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10).

• Be mindful of what fills your mind and heart through digital content. “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23).

Technology: A Tool or a Disruptor?

Anger is an emotion, and in itself, it is not a sin—but it can lead to sin depending on how we deal with it. Similarly, devices and technology are neutral from a spiritual and familial point of view. However, their influence—whether positive or negative—depends on how we use them. Only through intentional self-analysis can we recognise how much we are misusing technology.

Many families today suffer due to the misuse of technology. Marriages are strained, relationships with children are weakened, and quality time is lost because we allow digital distractions to dominate our lives.

The Hidden Battle Behind Technology Use

The Bible warns us in 1 John 2:16: “For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world.” Technology often appeals to these very desires, drawing us away from spiritual discipline and meaningful relationships.

Research on internet content distribution shows that much of the digital world is filled with distractions—whether entertainment, social media, or materialistic influences. Are we using technology to grow spiritually, or are we being drawn away by its temptations?

Evaluating Our Use of Technology

Here are some questions to consider:

• Do you engage in spiritual activities using your device without getting distracted?

• Do you read a WhatsApp message while doing your devotion on your phone?

• Do you attend a phone call during your time with God?

• Should you attend a call when you are in conversation with your spouse or children?

The Call to Use Technology Wisely

Technology is a powerful tool that can be used to strengthen family bonds and deepen our walk with God. However, if not managed carefully, it can also become an idol that takes the place of God in our lives.

Paul instructs in 1 Corinthians 10:31, “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” Even our use of technology should align with this principle.

Let us be intentional. Let us set boundaries. Let us ensure that our marriages and families remain stronger than our connection to our devices. May our love for God and our families always be greater than our attachment to screens.

After all, relationships—with God and with our loved ones—are what truly matter.